Stephanie Haefner and Making it Official

022Today, July 13th, is a very significant day in the history of my life, my own personal romance novel. It’s the day my husband and I made it official that we were a couple.

We were at an awkward age. I had just graduated from high school. He had been out for a year. We’d met a month or so before that and often hung out within our group of mutual friends. It was kinda casual, though I knew he liked me. A girl can tell these things 😉 I liked him too but I wasn’t sure what I wanted. I didn’t think I wanted to start dating anyone since I was going away to college in just over a month. But then he kissed me and we started hanging out alone. It was so different from any other boy I had dated or hung out with. And yes, I was only eighteen and hadn’t experienced life yet, but still, I just knew. Even having only known him a short time and being as young as we were, we knew. But we were too old for the “Wanna be my girlfriend?” request. So on the 13th of July 1995, he awkwardly asked me if we were seeing each other exclusively. And that’s how our official story began.

Karma Kameleon300dpi-logoAs a contemporary romance writer, I know how important the first meeting is for the hero and heroine. The first spark of attraction. Even if they refuse to admit it, they know they want to be together. Like me, many heroines aren’t sure what they want, but the pull is there. Even if she has plans, Cupid soars in and says “No way!” She may resist but in the end, Cupid always gets what he wants.

In contemporary romance, we often see situations similar to SH_SoapDreams-1our own and I think that’s what I love most about reading them. I can reminisce. I can laugh and cry and get angry, remembering my own path to happily ever after. It hasn’t been easy, it hasn’t always been pretty, but we’re here. I know the future will not be easy either, but we know what we have and it’s far too precious to ever lose. Romance novels are all about the happily ever after and the dream of finding it.

Stephanie Haefner is a wife, mother of two, and contemporary romance novelist from Buffalo, NY. A member of Romance Writers of America and the Western New York Romance Writers subchapter, she loves creating sassy heroines and tossing them into sexy circumstances. When not writing, tweeting, or blogging, she celebrates her sassiness with dance and zumba classes, and her nerdiness with boybands and Disney World. 



Stephanie Haefner and Making it Official — 6 Comments

  1. I knew my husband was the one for me when we passed the six-month mark dating. No one else made it longer than that. After three years of dating and 30 years of marriage, he’s still the one. (Cue Orleans)

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