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Pamela Aares and Sex, Baseball and Show, Don’t Tell….

pwb twitter photoGot your attention? Well, it is the height of sultry summer and our minds and bodies respond to the warmth and the light. But what do baseball, sex and summer have to do with bad writing advice?

Before I dive in, I want to thank Liz and the folks at Contemporary Romance Cafe for inviting me to be here today– I love having the opportunity to be in touch with readers and writers! Now– back to sex, baseball and bad writing advice…

Just about every writer on the planet has been given the advice: Show don’t tell. It’s good advice in many cases, but I had a tough lesson to learn.

I come for the world of film. In my previous life I produced and directed documentaries and worked on feature shorts. What you see and hear on the screen is what you get.

When I began writing romance in 2005, I had to translate my experience of telling stories in the film world onto the page. Punchy dialogue, action and precise body movements were my friends in that journey.

Stop. My manuscripts came back from my fabulous editors with questions like this: What is she feeling? What is he thinking? What’s her reaction to this information? What would she think about him revealing this?

They pointed out that relaying the underlying emotion and rich thought process of a character could add depth. Bits of narrative that layered in information about the character’s inner worlds were important.

Whew. It was okay to tell. Sometimes.

But what’s all this got to do with Sex and Baseball?

I write All-Star Major League Baseball heroes and the strong women who challenge them to love. I happen to be married to a former MLB All-star (oh yes, and then there’s “write what you know” but that’s a topic for another day!). And I write about baseball and sex.

When USA Today ran a post I wrote, “What is it about Baseball All-Stars that makes them Great Lovers? “, well, you can imagine the response. My post pointed out that what a man does to tune up his body for world-class competition– the focus, the physical train-up, the sensitivity and awareness that competition requires–all add up to rather fabulous bedroom skills.


I was signing books in a local bookstore and a sweet elderly lady dragged her husband over. “It’s for him,” she said as she laid Love Bats Last, the first book in The Tavonesi Series down for me to sign. Making conversation, I said to her husband, “The baseball is authentic.” The lady turned to me. “Oh honey,” she said leaning closer, “we know that. What we want to know is if the sex is authentic.”

I should’ve been prepared. There are limits to telling. I’d just hit mine.

 I’d be happy to send everybody who comments and signs up for my New Release Newsletter a Gift Copy of the ebook of Love Bats Last, the first book in the Tavonesi Series! And one lucky winner will win a copy of the latest in the series, Love on the Line.


Book Four in the Heart of the Game Series

Hiding her identity was a small price to pay for freedom . . .  

Heiress Cara Barrington fled the opulent world of her rich and famous familyLove on the Line Cover LARGE EBOOKto carve out an idyllic existence on the California Coast. In the sleepy town of Albion Bay, she’s embraced the simple way of living she’s always craved. No one knows her identity, and she’s free from the pressures of wealth . . . until her sexy new neighbor threatens the unpretentious world she’s worked so hard to build.

All-Star athlete Ryan Rea enjoys his high-profile status. He’s used to charming his way into the heart and bed of any woman he desires while keeping his own heart secure behind a steel wall. When he meets Cara, she throws him a curveball—she’s unlike any woman he’s ever met, and he has to have her.

Cara’s growing attraction to Ryan endangers her hard-won anonymity, and when she inherits the family business, she must choose between the world she left behind and her new life in the community she’s come to cherish. But facing up to her responsibilities could destroy her freedom and cost her the greatest love she’s ever known.

Love on the Line is available online as a print or eBook at all of your favorite booksellers.

Pamela Aares is an award-winning author of contemporary and historical romance novels and also writes about fictional romance in sports with her new four-part baseball romance book series titled The Tavonesi SeriesHeart of the Game.

 Her popularity as a romance writer continues to grow with each new book release, so much so, that the Bay area author has drawn comparisons by reviewers to Nora Roberts.

Before becoming a romance author, Pamela wrote and produced award-winning films including Your Water, Your Life, featuring actress Susan Sarandon and NPR series New Voices, The Powers of the Universe and The Earth’s Imagination. She holds a Master’s degree from Harvard and currently resides in the wine country of Northern California with her husband, a former MLB All-Star and two curious cats.

If not behind her computer, you can probably find her reading a romance novel, hiking the beach or savoring life with friends. And she loves hearing from readers and writers!



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