Inspired by…Interruption!

Since it’s Mother’s Day today and I’m both a mom and a writer, I thought I’d talk about the sometimes-controversial topic of children appearing in erotic romances and what inspired me to include children in one of mine.

ForbiddenFantasies_Final.inddIn my opinion, the appropriateness of children in an erotic romance depends on how the story is written, and if it’s integral to the plot.  Forbidden Fantasies deals with a couple who’ve been married fifteen years, and they have kids. During one of the most intense conversations they’ve ever had about their sex lives, Alex and Jess are interrupted by their vomiting son, and have to put their own issues on hold to care for their child.

Sounds familiar, huh?

If you’re a parent, you’re well aware of untimely interruptions by a sick, terrified, or curious child. How many times have you had to stop everything – maybe the best everything you’ve had in a long time – to do the Mom or Dad thing? That knock on the door or scream from a crib could interrupt things right when you’re at the almost-there-please-don’t-stop part of making love, it could cut off a vital conversation, and if you’re into BDSM and kink, it could happen smack-dab in the middle of being flogged while you’re tied to the bed.  Have you ever heard “Mommy, what’s that funny noise in your room?” Eek.

I’ve heard arguments that erotic romance shouldn’t ever include kids, because not every erotic romance reader is a parent. But some of us are, and when you have kids, you don’t stop being a sexual person (even though our teenagers may cringe at that thought!)  You may be too tired by all that goes into being a parent to keep up the pace you used to (one of Alex and Jess’s problems!), but those feelings are still there.  I love reading all kinds of erotic romance, but speaking for myself, sometimes I like reading stories that are similar to my own experiences. Do I know what it’s like to hear feet in the hallway and the twist of a doorknob right as we’re about to get to the good parts? Uh huh.  Rather than take away from the story, when I read a scene like that, I find myself relating to the heroine, being drawn more into her story.

Another argument is that kids take away from the sexy factor, and I have to disagree with that, too. When he held our newborn child, my husband’s sexy quotient went through the roof.

So what about you? What are your thoughts? Do you mind kids in erotic romance novels?

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A year ago, Detective Delia Robinson and Fire Marshal Colin Butler got up close and personal while working a case. But their sizzling relationship didn’t last. Now there’s a serial arsonist on the loose, and it’s up to Delia and Colin to bring him down—if they can resist their attraction long enough to concentrate on the investigation.

Delia quickly sees the connection between the crime scenes: elements of BDSM. Though she denies it, Colin is stunned by the realization that his former lover is aroused by the idea of bondage play. And suddenly he can’t stop fantasizing about being the one to bind her…

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Inspired by…Interruption! — 18 Comments

  1. After reading this post I am going to go check out Forbidden Fantasies. What you described is my life right now. My husband and I have been married 14 years and have 2 children. I was just thinking the other day it would be nice if my kids knew what happens behind closed doors and were grossed out and ran the other way. Right now we get a knock and a “What are you doing in there?” Plus I love reading romance stories where the hero and heroine are married. Thanks for the cool post.

  2. Jodie, I love this post! As a parent, I can definitely relate. And your post comes at a perfect time for me. I just started a sizzling heat-level novella where the heroine is a single mom and I wondered if it was too risky. There are probably lots of people who still think so, but I am committed to writing it anyway. :-) Happy Mothers Day to you, and all the sexy mamas out there.

    • Hey, Reese! There probably are people who will think it’s too much, but others who love the idea. If the story wants to be told, go for it! :) Happy Mother’s Day to you, too!

  3. I didn’t know this was an issue until I read your post, Jodie. My first two erotic romances didn’t have children. It wasn’t a conscious decision. It’s just that those characters weren’t at that point in their lives. And quite frankly, I don’t think they’ll ever get there. The one I’m working on now does have children. Although they are offstage until the end, they are integral in showing the heroine’s growth. I guess I don’t understand the objections. It’s not like we’re using the children as sex objects. They’re just a part of our characters’ lives. Do people have a problem with children in murder mysteries or war stories?

    • I agree with you, Samantha. I’ve seen a few things about it, though — some say kids pull them out of the story. I think it’s a “to each their own” kind of thing…

  4. As someone who’s been married for 20 plus years and waited 10 before having kids, I can so relate. At the time, just about getting caught is horrifying, but the later we end up laughing hysterically. Like the time my husband reminds me when I panicked and yelled I was just helping Daddy find his keys.

  5. Well, I wrote an erotic romance with a mother in it, so I guess that answers the question for me 😛

    On a wider note, I don’t think erotic romance is different from other genres as it is sometimes made to seem. We’re here to tell a good story about compelling characters, some of whom may be parents.

  6. I never thought of this an issue, actually! How sad is that?? I guess my take on it is those of us with kids have sex lives (obviously) and sometimes those sex lives can be pretty damn hot. So no, kids don’t pull me out of the story at all–as long as the book works around them properly. There are precautions parents would take IRL before tying Mommy to the bed to make sure the kids don’t get an eyeful and to keep everyone out of therapy later. Parents are sexual beings, too. :)

    • I hadn’t either, Ami. And I definitely made sure the kids were out of the way during smexytimes in my story, though you can’t really plan for a throw-uppy kid. :) And yes, yes we are sexual beings. After all…the kids got here somehow!

  7. I love that you included some kiddus interruptus in your story! Thanks for sharing. This was a great post!

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